I wanted to share my experience with you all, for attending weekly Halaqah (martial arts) Alhamduillah I have been attending the Halaqah for almost 7 years now, without any gaps. I am benefiting very much. Seeking knowledge has transformed my life so much, each week each session would have an impact in my life, the very first lesson i ever attended was the series on hereafter, while studying the hereafter series I have taken away a lot of fruits for taught, as each lesson was being delivered I felt as though it was being addressed to me. I felt as if Allah was guiding me, telling me to sort out my shortcomings and as an individual I had many flaws and characteristics which is disliked in Islam. Each week after each session I would go home think very deep, there was so much with in me I needed to work on. Alhamduillah that was Allah plan to reform my character and cleanse me, truly I felt so blessed and I started my journey in the pursue of knowledge. This hadith made a huge impact in my marital life.
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052),
As women we tend to fall into this habit very easily. Got me thinking it does matter how much I pray my salah, fast the month of Ramadan, if I am ungrateful for one act towards my spouse, it may risk my chance of entering into paradise.
So I started to implement this hadith into my life, it was hard at first, I felt like Allah was testing me to see how I deal with the test, I found it very hard at first, kept making dua’s to Allah to help me with this character, it took about a year to drill this habit into myself, each time something went wrong, I would say-to myself to have patience and not to react. Alhamduillah for the past 6 years I managed to make an habit of not reacting, I guess having applied this hadith had a huge impact in life and my home, Alhamduillah it has bought a lot of peace and tranquillity into my home, I am grateful for the fact that my children are growing up in a home where the mother is not ungrateful, not appreciative and not having respect towards the father. This can have a negative impact on my children. I needed to change in order, to be a good role model for my children. This also has helped to me to grateful for all Allah’s favours upon me.